I know this might be difficult for you to grok, but some people literally want children, no matter what. So the notion that you know what she would have chosen is just projection. But I concede you are not pushing eugenics.
Social conditioning, pronatal cultural values, religious indoctrination, looking at children as old age pension and security asset, and other retrogressive reasons are to blame. In the enlightened parts of the world, fertility is dropping rapidly, educated and urbane want to self actualize not spend away their life in a biological ponzi scheme.
I am not so much against policies as being against a one size fits all kind of thing. You have a hammer and suddenly you want hammer away at every problem like a nail. I am sure you can winkle a case for population control in this instance, but I think there are better reasons for Grace's situation. She has left a lower population region to go India after all.
You still don't get it. Bwana Bitmask it is not that complicated, read this story about a poor mother of 8 in Mau, who regrets not using contraceptives, her story is typical:
Lily Sigilai arrives home with a pile of firewood on her back.She drops it on the ground with a thud and sighs heavily from the exhaustion of hauling it this far. A smile plays on her mouth, which has started showing early wrinkles, as her delighted children rush to embrace her. The youngest one, who is months old, is visibly hungry and proceeds to breastfeed. The rest congregate around her in anticipation of a meal which, sadly, she has to head off to find as soon as the baby is fed. Sigilai lives in Olmekenyu in Narok South. She is only 34, but her haggard look shows a woman whose youth is long past her. Poor, homeless, illiterate and shouldering the burden of feeding eight children, two of whom have special needs, life couldn't have dealt her a worse card. That she is married doesn't make much difference. She says it was not her wish to have eight children, especially considering that she and her husband can barely feed and clothe them, but because of cultural dictates she ended up with eight girls "trying to get at least one boy".https://allafrica.com/stories/202003300140.html^^ I urge you to read the rest, that story plays out in village after village in Sub Saharan, unremitting suffering and hopelessness largely due to unplanned families and fertility rates that strain meager incomes. This is not frivolous BBI Ruto political games, it is life and death.
You are on record for saying that life is a mistake for what it's worth. So I am hesitant to buy into some of your ideas, even though they may sound plausible, because I detect a tautological underpinning at best and nihilism at worst. But you make interesting points.
I'm an anti natalist, that doesn't diminish an iota the validity of my population control views. Compassion moves me not nihilism, I hate to see needless suffering.