Is it abnormal for an African man of almost 40 not having kids

[Arcadian_Dreamer]

You took the bait and asked that dubious question i knew thats why i left the cheque blank
You see let me answer you briefly when you have kids you have a MBIG reason to work extra harder and not be contented ie. When being bachelor one is contented with small things , a car lovely lifestyle women etc cheap things. But once you have kids you know there are other more important things in life to achieve. Again their is the respect that comes with being a parent when I was a bachelor i couldn't join Njuri Ncheke as that disqualified me, now i can seat at same table with elders even though am quite young the respect I get simply emanates from my status as a family man
There lots of things i can't put here but if you want to be castrated make sure you adopt children like the orphans or chokoraa that's only advice if you want to help in this life.

I'm the opposite, I have a burning ambition to achieve. Having kids will dampen down those fires and make me a lazy father who is content with walking my children down to the park, driving them to school. Domestic life is not for me, it is stifling just thinking about it.

We the new generation will change that perception, we will show the future generations having children is a handicap and liability. FGM, child marriage, teeth pulling we are also in vogue once.

[Arcadian_Dreamer]

Do not let these guys put pressure on you. You could have kids that turn into riff raffs and criminals and end up causing your a lot of grief. Very few parents get much care from kids in old age. You just need to plan your life properly and take steps that will secure you in oldage. Plus do not let your family dump their responsibilities  on you. Think about it this way the person asking for your handout today if roles were reversed would they be there for you?

Pundit's sole premise for having having kids is so that they can take care of you in old age. Your kids will have their own kids to take care of when your old and will not bother with you. All these jungus in care homes have multiple kids, some don't visit for years if they ever do. Even in Africa, elders seldom get the care they need. We are on our own in this world. Best thing to do is as you said plan ahead and secure your old age life.

[Kadudu]

Pundit might end up in Nyumba ya Wazee in Nairobi. Today's world even kids in Kenya are running away from their old folks. Many abandoned parents especially in towns. Kila mtu kiviake.

Not having kids has never killed anyone. Life continues.

Pundit's sole premise for having having kids is so that they can take care of you in old age. Your kids will have their own kids to take care of when your old and will not bother with you. All these jungus in care homes have multiple kids, some don't visit for years if they ever do. Even in Africa, elders seldom get the care they need. We are on our own in this world. Best thing to do is as you said plan ahead and secure your old age life.

[GeeMail]

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Do not let these guys put pressure on you. You could have kids that turn into riff raffs and criminals and end up causing your a lot of grief. Very few parents get much care from kids in old age. You just need to plan your life properly and take steps that will secure you in oldage. Plus do not let your family dump their responsibilities  on you. Think about it this way the person asking for your handout today if roles were reversed would they be there for you?

Pundit's sole premise for having having kids is so that they can take care of you in old age. Your kids will have their own kids to take care of when your old and will not bother with you. All these jungus in care homes have multiple kids, some don't visit for years if they ever do. Even in Africa, elders seldom get the care they need. We are on our own in this world. Best thing to do is as you said plan ahead and secure your old age life.

Children born and brought up in the west are a liability in old age. All other normal children find it honorable and dutiful to take care of old parents. It's no wonder that parents with a western orientation cannot see the problem with jungus who are not even visited by their children in nursing homes.

[RV Pundit]

Kids provide "companionship" better than your wife or girlfriend;  Kids will make you even more ambitious and hardworking

[KenyanPlato]

Kids provide "companionship" better than your wife or girlfriend;  Kids will make you even more ambitious and hardworking

Kids are overrated. Kids are selfish little entitled humans. There is no need for humans to continue procreating. it is a waste of time

[RV Pundit]

But you won't be willing to  die today to save our mother earth

Kids are overrated. Kids are selfish little entitled humans. There is no need for humans to continue procreating. it is a waste of time