Are you trying to understand why you have many baby mamas.
We are family of many wives too...from my father side...but almost non-existent in my mother side.
I think it come with territory...we have vibaras..that a lot of testoreone.
All my mother side folks are sober - single women - kind of no makelele folks.
My father side is opposite...many women...makelele..hot headed..vichwa ngumus.
The only relative I know we lost to Mzungu
1) Well my great grandfather who I was named (we pick who we are named after randomly) died of depression from Mzungu selling his cows as fine for crossing Narok and giving him coins.
2) My great grandfather brother - was burnt in Naivasha due to smallpox - it was like COVID-19 but containtment - Mzungu came to your hut and set it on fire while you were inside. Painful way to die. The wife returned from Naivasha with ashes
My father relatives were mostly driving tractors - for Mzungu - in Naivasha, Nakuru and where Mzungu was.