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Forum => Controversial => Topic started by: vooke on September 16, 2014, 07:26:48 AM
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I looked up to this negro, he is a negro mighty in scriptures, his ministry was an enviable model. I have read his books and monthly devotional- Rhapsody of Realities for years. He has kept above negro evangelical BS. And then this
http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/adultery-not-anita-oyakhilome-s-ground-for-divorce-court-papers-show/188414/
Facts have emerged at the weekend that the ground on which Pastor Anita Oyakhilome is seeking to divorce her husband, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, the President of Believers’ Love World Inc., popularly known as Christ Embassy, is not adultery but on behaviours that suggest that she cannot ‘reasonably be expected’ to live with him.
There had been media reports that Anita decided to divorce Pastor Chris based on allegations of ‘adultery’ and ‘unreasonable behaviours’ but a copy of the court papers for the divorce process filed at the Principal Registry of the Family Division (PRFD) of the High Court of Justice in possession of THISDAY, revealed that she applied for “divorce on the ground that the marriage has broken down irretrievably.”
In her statement of case in support of petition at PRFD with number FD14001650, Pastor Anita however, accused her husband of having inappropriate relationship with some of his female staff members.
According to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his appropriate relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised her worries and taken no step to alleviate her grievances.”
In fact, the statement indicated no allegation of adultery as there was no co-respondent to the petition and no names were mentioned.
Dictionary.com defines adultery as “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse.”
The statement reads in part: “The wife submits that her marriage to the husband has irretrievably broken down and there is no hope of reconciliation. The wife will submit that it is the husband’s unreasonable behaviours which have led to this.
“The husband and the wife are both Pastors. The husband undertakes his work, in the main, in South Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the United Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived separately for 16 years and over this time have drifted apart. The wife has come to realise that the husband will only visit the UK for annual church programmes that he holds rather than to be with this wife. The wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to their children during their developing years.
“The wife feels that their marriage suffered under the pressure of their work. They would rarely spend time together due to the husband unavailability. Special occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and family occasions and anniversaries past them by and their rarely spent any time together as a family as the husband was more devoted to his work than he was to them.
“The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know basis.
“The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
“As a result of the husband’s attitude to their marriage, the wife will say that he is virtually not recognised as a married man in the ministry. His teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the husband is a master and a controller and the wife will say that his concept of biblical; submission is so extreme that it is impossible for her to meet his expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he treats her in the presence of his close female staff members and she feels that she has been taken for granted which has become unbearably stressful for her.
“The wife will say that the relationship with the husband is non-existent to the point that his itinerary which was announced publicly at the beginning of the year had no provision for time with his family. His staff members who travel with him organise both his personal and professional life without any input from her. The wife will say that she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an intruder.
“The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically and emotionally deprived of the experience of a marital relationship. She feels that the husband has persistently judged her and his communication with her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he was hard to please and has been extremely critical.
“The wife reserves the right to expand on all of these particulars if the divorce petition is defended.”
SOME OF HIS WORK
http://webstore.pastorchrisdigitallibrary.org/home.php
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http://thecable.ng/exclusive-pastor-oyakhilomes-wife-finally-files-for-divorce-in-london-court
MORE OF MUCHENE
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This negro is just a Benny Hinn wannabe, down to the white suits and style of service, even the 'testimonials'.
Don't see what is worse about negro evangelicals than white ones. It was white ones that created the prosperity myth and spread it round the world with their media. Paul &Jen Crouch of TBN are as white as they come and all their litany of friends, mostly white, spew the same properity stuff 247. Negroes have just borrowed it. :D Funny thing is that it started at the same time as a similar wave was making its way round secular humanist/New ageist circles about "thinking and manifesting" your desires. With the TV evangelicals its "name it and claim it", the same concept in different languages.
The only TV evangelicals worth listening to are Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen, IMHO. However, while I enjoy listening to him almost all the time, I think Osteen is a bit of a people-pleaser and I don't like that the only time he mentions Jesus in his sermons is the last minute when he is giving the "altar call". I also love his wife and like it when he gives her the podium, she could give both him and Joyce a run for their money methinks. :D Joyce is close to perfect in the way she goes about her thing :D and Jesus is at the centre of her teaching most of the time. In Kenya, Pastor Kariuki from Nakuru is ok. Mathew Ashimolowa of winning ways isn't bad either, he has a bit of the prosperity thing but its tastefully done and responsibility is taught, its not outright greed like the others. I always enjoy his sermon.
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Kababe, good to see you. There's much to say, but my comments will be brief. I do not know this man. In fact, I haven't even watched his videos Vooke has posted. Just wondering, will he stick to the ministry after the divorce? Methinks he shouldn't - he no longer qualifies as per I Tim 3 and Titus 1. But again, the problem seems to be the man's lack of time for his family. Thankfully the wife has ruled out adultery (we can't speculate although there seems to be a hint in the papers).
I agree entirely about the prosperity gospel. I used to listen to Joel Osteen a lot, and Joyce Meyer too. Not any more. Both not only preach the prosperity gospel but live it. I still like Joel Osteen's Texas accent, but his gospel has a trajectory that lines up more with prosperity than Jesus' power to love, pursue, rebuke, correct and save sinners, of whom I am one.
Vooke, as a minister of the gospel, I pray that this becomes a lesson for us not to forsake our families. We can do all that and preach to the whole world, but if we lose our families in the process, I'm afraid Christ will say, "Away from Me; I never knew you."
Can a divorce suit be withdrawn at this stage? When does a marriage break down irretrievably?
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Kababe, good to see you. There's much to say, but my comments will be brief. I do not know this man. In fact, I haven't even watched his videos Vooke has posted. Just wondering, will he stick to the ministry after the divorce? Methinks he shouldn't - he no longer qualifies as per I Tim 3 and Titus 1. But again, the problem seems to be the man's lack of time for his family. Thankfully the wife has ruled out adultery (we can't speculate although there seems to be a hint in the papers).
I agree entirely about the prosperity gospel. I used to listen to Joel Osteen a lot, and Joyce Meyer too. Not any more. Both not only preach the prosperity gospel but live it. I still like Joel Osteen's Texas accent, but his gospel has a trajectory that lines up more with prosperity than Jesus' power to love, pursue, rebuke, correct and save sinners, of whom I am one.
Vooke, as a minister of the gospel, I pray that this becomes a lesson for us not to forsake our families. We can do all that and preach to the whole world, but if we lose our families in the process, I'm afraid Christ will say, "Away from Me; I never knew you."
Can a divorce suit be withdrawn at this stage? When does a marriage break down irretrievably?
Are you asking about the divorce from a Christian perspective or legal perspective? Different jurisdictions have different rules; in Kenya you have to do it through a petition and it can be a lengthy process, deliberately made so, especially if one of the parties is unwilling. The law was recently changed so you'd have to look through the new marriage act, 2014 for dtails. In general though, a petitioner must usually prove a matrimonial offence like adultery or dissertion before the court can grant the divorce decree. In other jurisdictions in the west it is much easier and consent of the parties alone may be enough.
From a Christian perspective, as usual there will be a difference across the four main chrstian branches. For Catholics and oriental orthodox, a valid Christian (that is, sacramental) marriage--between two baptized persons--that has been consummated, can only "break down" at the death of one of the spouses. The church can issue a decree of nullity if there was something wrong with the marriage itself from the beginning, so that the couple can remarry, but if it was valid from the get go, it ends only at death. Eastern Orthodox permit divorce and remarriage only up to 2 times, I think, but no more. Protestants are very varied. Some recognize divorce and remarriage only in cases of adultery, others will recognize remarriage despite the reason for the divorce. I guess you'd have to inquire at the particular church.